When you tie the knot and start a life together, irrespective of the fact whether yours is a love or an arranged marriage, the first year of your marriage is the most decisive one as it is the time you discover, you learn, and you start understanding each other.Marriage is one of the most beautiful, exciting, romantic and adventurous phases of your life. It means you will be starting a new phase of your life, sharing your home, your space and your life with someone. It also brings the joy of beginning a new family.
You Get To Understand Your Marriage
You may have known each other for a long time, but there are many things that you get to know about a person only when you share your life with them. Your partner’s likes, dislikes, habits – good as well as bad, the way they eat, sleep and many other things make you aware of your partner completely. When you live together in a house that is when you meet the real person, that’s when you know what is to be living under one roof. The real love is in accepting the other person the way he/she is.
Marriage Is All About Sharing
Not only your home, but things like your space, your cupboards, your towels, your car, your favourite chocolates that you have stacked in the fridge, which may seem like small things but mean a lot to you!
Unity Is The Base Of Marriage
If you are a married couple who does not fight, then there is seriously something wrong with you! A healthy marriage has healthy fights and that is what brings you closer too. Rather, you two become a team and look for fruitful solutions to solve the problem before you. Along the way, you realize that you may fight your hearts out, but when faced with a challenging situation, you never leave your partner alone.
Understanding Each Others Preferences
This phase of your marriage is where you spend the maximum time together . Hence, not only the likes and dislikes, but it also makes you well aware of your partner’s tastes, both good and bad. This knowing each other phase is beautiful and it has a charm of it’s own.
Understanding The Strong And Weak Points
When you are dating, your partner might show you his/her strong points, but will always feel conscious and shy of making you familiar with the weak ones. But, once you are married and your partner is convinced that you would not be judged, you get to see both the strong and not-so-strong qualities of your spouse, and learn how to deal with them too. You learn a lot of things about your partners patterns and interests. These are little little things that make life easy and beautiful.
You may be the strong one when a difficult situation arises and would want to fight it in the eye. Your spouse, on the other hand, might be just the opposite and may prefer to either ignore it or run away from it. Try and see through the flaws in your marriage and learn to let go ego. When you know how both of you deal with specific situations and are aware of each other’s crisis management techniques, you are better equipped to deal with them when the next one arises. Be a team to each other, stand against all odds in life.
Fighting Pattern Of Each Other
Yes, that is true! The first year of your marriage is enough time for you to understand the pattern or the triggers for your partner to get angry and start fights. You also become more aware of not letting fights caused by silly triggers to occur in the future. Marriage can get better only when you want to work on it, make the relationship better and wiser. Life is better when these small moments give you unforgettable memories to cherish for life.
You Get A Friend For Life
You know, your 3 am companion, your partner in crime, your best buddy who also luckily happens to be your spouse? And, the reason you enjoy the company of your best friend the most in the first year is because that is the most fun-filled and stress-free time. Your friend for rest of the life, till you get old. Being a couple this is the time to build in the foundation for the life that is waiting ahead. This beautiful journey will be useless if you don’t have that love and friendly bond with each other.
You Know How Lucky You Are To Be Married
Once you start living together, making your home the way you want it to be, discovering new facts about marriage, learning new things from each other and realizing how content and happy you feel every day, makes you feel blessed to have got married to this wonderful person. You feel certain that you will have a beautiful future as this year taught you a lot about each other, and that is all you need to start your journey.
Marriage has a million of happy moments, many romantic instances, some sorrows, a lot of fights, maybe a few doctor visits, a few good family get-together, some bitter experiences with loved ones, and many more of such ups and downs. But, all these together, lay the foundation to your ‘happily ever after’!
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By Shagufta Rahaman.